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As has been previously mentioned, I finished the 21-day Clean Cleanse last week.  I have to admit that it feels like a pretty epic accomplishment (and is actually 24 days, if you include the initial 3-day pre-cleanse).  I’ve never been one to set, or follow, rules for what and when I eat, so this part alone was quite a new experience for me.  Because Farrell works at Clean and I wanted to see what her job and company are all about, I did the cleanse from the Clean kit which includes shake packs for breakfast and dinner, probiotics and supplements.  However, I think it is worth mentioning that anyone can do the cleanse on their own by following the same program which is laid out in the book Clean by Dr. Alejandro Junger.  In either case, the idea is to remove common toxins, irritants and allergens (i.e. soy, diary, gluten, refined sugar, caffeine, alcohol, etc.) for a full body detox as well as to better understand the effects these things have on your body when you reintroduce them post-cleanse.

Physically, I felt great almost immediately (minus a full afternoon/evening caffeine withdrawal headache on day 2 of the pre-cleanse).  I am a daily coffee drinker and knew this would be one of the hardest parts of the cleanse for me, so I started reducing the amount of coffee I was drinking about a week before I even started the pre-cleanse.  I think this was really helpful for me.  I never really stopped missing coffee during the cleanse but I didn’t feel a real physical need for it either. The same was true of alcohol.  A huge part of my social life includes food and drinks and feeling like I couldn’t socialize in the ways I’m used to was hard for me.  I would often walk past bustling bars and restaurants around the city and feel a sort of sad longing for the days when I used to laugh with friends in those settings.  Ridiculous but true.  

A few other thoughts/reflections on my experience:

– It is nearly impossible to buy food that is made only of ingredients with which I am familiar.  Preparing your own food seems to be the way to go if you’re trying to eat clean.

– Doing the cleanse with someone made all the difference.  As a friend of mine told me somewhat disgustedly, “You know what they say, a couple that cleanses together…”  Jokes aside, this component was really huge for me.  The cleanse kind of takes over your life and being able to share that experience on a day to day basis made the whole thing much easier for me than I think it would have otherwise been. Along those same lines, I also submersed myself in all things Clean. Obviously Farrell was a huge source of support.  I also listened to all five Clean Program conference calls for people cleansing at the start of 2014.  Basically I found that, particularly for the first and second weeks, I needed to focus almost entirely on the experience in order to really do it and all of these supports and sources of information were way more important to me than I would have ever imagined.

Preparation is key.  I have a tendency to wait too long before eating, even if I’m hungry, so when I finally do eat I make less healthy choices.  Having food at home that was Clean approved & going out to get lunch before I was starving made a big difference in my days.

– Routine is hard for me & I don’t do well with boredom and monotony.  I had a pretty horrific day 14 through 16.  The novelty of the program had significantly worn off, my social interactions were at a real low and the January cold was really getting to me.  Though I already knew this about myself, I really saw how important it is for me to funnel my energy into exercise and creativity – and how often I forgo those things with other distractions.  It wasn’t a fun couple of days.

– I liked doing the cleanse from the kit more than I anticipated I would.  Having a physical and material structure was really helpful and kept me on track.

– I want to stay clean!  I have to say I felt consistently rested throughout the cleanse.  My skin looked and felt good.  I never went to bed or woke up feeling heavy, lethargic or groggy.  It was great.  That being said, I have reintroduced all things back into my diet.  However, I’m still trying to make the best decisions I can and am finding that, for me, that means (1) considering how something will make me feel before I consume it and (2) acting in accordance with that.  These aren’t easy things and I’m by no means saying I’m doing this successfully all of the time.  It is simply my intention and one that I’m going to keep working at.

I hate to be seen without makeup on.

I would prefer to never been seen without makeup.

I have been reading Brene Brown’s book titled The Gifts of Imperfection and each time I read a chapter or two I feel a little bit more insightful.

In the most recent chapter I read, she discusses her research on perfectionism.

Here is are some profound thoughts on perfectionism:

“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgement and blame.

Perfectionism is self destructive because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.”

I read this as an outsider looking in on something I felt was not me. I can think of many people I know that are obviously perfectionists, but never thought I was one.

Then I realized that of course I have many levels of perfectionism, in whatever ways that means to me.

Here are some of Brene’s thoughts on how to cope and heal from perfectionism:

Self-kindness, common humanity (“I am not alone” type thing) and mindfulness about your habits of trying to be PERFECT.

Of course nothing is perfect and reading some of these thoughts was a great reminder this week.

Here are this weeks pics:

Farrell – Los Angeles, CA

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Sunset football at the beach

Sunset football at the beach

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Double Volley

Double Volley

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Bike ride through Venice Canals

Bike ride through Venice Canals

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Lauren – Philadelphia, Washington DC & NYC

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Flower market in Philadelphia’s 30th Street Train Station

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View of the U.S. Capitol from Washington’s Union Station

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Back in NYC for haircuts and hang with our mom!

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Earlier this week I listened to this incredibly powerful interview that Terry Gross did with Tim Gunn on Fresh Air. I always liked Tim Gunn when I used to watch Project Runway. He comes across so well poised and sophisticated, yet incredibly human and kind. A few years ago I’d heard that after Gunn’s long-term boyfriend died of AIDS several years ago he’d chosen to live the remainder of his life celibate. This incredibly honest interview discusses that as well as Gunn’s early childhood experiences with bullying, the years he spent in a mental home for children, his relationship with his parents and process of acknowledging his homosexuality. I found the whole thing so touching and I think we could all learn a lot both from Gunn’s story and the way in which he shares it.  Hear the interview here.

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Last night I found this picture of me at Burning Man about six years ago. It makes me happy.

F: Today is day 21 of your cleanse. Can you tell me how you feel about the whole process?

L:  I’ve been thinking I’d like to write a post about my whole experience so, yes, but not right now.

F. What kind of music are you listening to this week?

L:  Ugh, I haven’t found my grove yet this week.  These are the songs I was listening to last week though:

F:  What is one thing that is getting you through this winter?

L:  It’s hard to differentiate the cleanse I’ve been doing from this question but, in large part because of it, I have been meditating more, generally going to bed at a decent hour and focusing almost entirely on my health.

F. Do you have a picture assigned to my contact in your phone? If yes, what is it? If no, why not?

L:  I don’t and I’m tempted to say, “Oh, you can do that?!”  I mean, I guess I know you can do that but I’ve never done that, I don’t think.  If I did, I think I’d use this one of you (couldn’t crop Albie out):

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F: What was the first picture you took with your new camera?

L: Straight to the selfie & only room for improvement.

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Last week, we had friends in town.

It was one of those visits that you didn’t know you needed until you experienced it.

Lately, Albert and I have both been feeling a bit down. There have been times when we wondered why we moved so far away or what we are doing with our lives. There were other times when we couldn’t quite put our finger on what exactly had us down.

Either way, we weren’t really helping each other out. There was only so much strength and positivity that one could hold for so long.

Then our friends came.

It wasn’t a crazy kind of visit – the kind where you feel exhausted and like you need to do a juice cleanse after. It was more of a retreat. A little pocket of time when we made good food, shared stories, sang that one song and really connected.

While it was happening, Albert said to me, “It is so good to have really good old friends.” And it couldn’t have been more true.

We both felt so at ease and in turn we felt honest and authentic.

Thanks for the wonderful visit Julie and Dave.

Yo, hope you all had a nice Super Bowl Sunday. Here are this weekend’s pics:

Farrell – Los Angeles, CA

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Teddy insisted that we watch the Puppy Bowl during half time

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Half way up a 6 mile Saturday afternoon hike

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One of the best pizza parties yet!

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Lauren – New York, NY

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Chinese New Year celebrated in my hood

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Quiet Sunday afternoon at home

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Above all, trust in the slow work of God.
We are, quite naturally,
impatient in everything to reach the end without delay,
We should like to skip the intermediate stages.
We are impatient of being on the way
to something unknown, something new,
and yet it is the law of all progress
that it is made by passing through
some stages of instability…
and that it may take a very long time.

And so I think it is with you,
Your ideas mature gradually…
let them grow,
let them shape themselves without undue haste.
Don’t try to force them on,
as though you could be today
what time will make them tomorrow.

Only God could say what this new spirit
gradually forming within you will be.
Give Our Lord the benefit of beleiving
that His hand is leading you,
and accept the anxiety of
feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.

-Pierre Teillhard de Chardin