Sometimes when I’m so inclined I turn to greatday.com for its daily message. I read this one yesterday and particularly liked it, so much so that it was still on my mind when I woke up this morning. Hope you like it too.
Willingness to Learn
Look back at everything you did yesterday and ask yourself this simple but powerful question. What worked, and what didn’t?
The way to improve and to become more effective is to learn. The way to learn is to take the time to look at what actually happened.
You don’t need some celebrated guru to reveal to you how to improve your work. You just need the willingness to learn from what you’ve done.
Instead of getting angry or frustrated about your failures, choose to learn from them. Instead of getting boastful or complacent about your successes, make the choice to learn from them.
Learn what helps you, what holds you back, what makes you more effective and what slows you down. Learn from your encounters, your experiences, your joys, your setbacks and from the surprising twists that life often takes.
In everything is the valuable opportunity to learn if you’ll simply decide to do so. Learn from it all, and make each day better than the one before.
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Level Naturals is a downtown LA based all natural product company that I have fallen deeply in love with. Their Mission Fig & Lychee candle is one of the best I’ve smelled in a while.
I made and taste tested all of the smoothies in this GOOP magazine and ever since I have been craving them. The chai gingerbread shake is the freakin’ best!
Also, homemade sweet potato fries are amazing.
CV Skinlab’s has become one of my favorite effective and chemical free companies. Their calming moisture feels insanely soft when I put in on. It is the best part of my early morning routine.
I have happened to listen to this Fresh Air interview with David ‘Russell many times. As you may know, he directed American Hustle. I always find it fascinating to learn about a filmmaker’s point of view.
Sunday accidentally/happily became documentary day and I pounded out: The Square, an inspiring and chilling documentary about a group of Egyptian revolutionaries. It’s the real deal. I also watched Mitt, which is a documentary about Mitt Romney and I highly recommend it.
Some while ago I started this thing wherein when I see someone on the street, or on the train, with a bouquet of flowers, I accept them (in my mind) as meant for me. Once when leaving an event I snagged an extravagant spray made up of gorgeous blossoming peonies, among other buds, and on my way home handed out individual flowers to strangers I caught admiring their beauty. One particularly enthusiastic man, heading out to dinner with friends, proudly adorned his lapel. I linger in the flower section in Whole Foods’ entrance debating how much, if anything, I’m willing to spend on various assortment combinations before I’ve even gotten to my overpriced grocery list. When I splurge and make a purchase, I feel particularly delighted to be the woman on the street with fresh flowers peaking out from my shopping bag. I go months without having any in my home and then
spontaneously pick up a bunch vowing I will always treat myself so well.
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It has been a while since I have done a noteworthy post, but since it’s been a busy week it felt appropriate.
It is important for me to let myself be quiet and to let myself share ideas.
When you feel you are lacking, it is actually really comforting to focus on what you do have.
Dancing is pretty much awesome.
Everything isn’t “the worst,” sometimes you are just tired.
Happy gut, happy life.
Sometimes you just need a drink.
“To live on a day-to-day basis is insufficient for human beings; we need to transcend, transport, escape; we need meaning, understanding, and explanation; we need to see over-all patterns in our lives. We need hope, the sense of a future. And we need freedom (or, at least, the illusion of freedom) to get beyond ourselves, whether with telescopes and microscopes and our ever-burgeoning technology, or in states of mind that allow us to travel to other worlds, to rise above our immediate surroundings.
We may seek, too, a relaxing of inhibitions that makes it easier to bond with each other, or transports that make our consciousness of time and mortality easier to bear. We seek a holiday from our inner and outer restrictions, a more intense sense of the here and now, the beauty and value of the world we live in.”
― Oliver Sacks
May today serve as an opportunity to expand my heart through a genuine appreciation for what is.
“…appreciate again and again, freshly and naively, the basic goods of life with awe, pleasure, wonder, and even ecstasy, however stale these experiences may have become to others. This ability to freshly appreciate everyday experience [enables you] to derive a sense of pleasure, inspiration, and strength from even mundane happenings.” (via here)
I would prefer to never been seen without makeup.
I have been reading Brene Brown’s book titled The Gifts of Imperfection and each time I read a chapter or two I feel a little bit more insightful.
In the most recent chapter I read, she discusses her research on perfectionism.
Here is are some profound thoughts on perfectionism:
“Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, live perfectly, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgement and blame.
Perfectionism is self destructive because there is no such thing as perfect. Perfection is an unattainable goal.”
I read this as an outsider looking in on something I felt was not me. I can think of many people I know that are obviously perfectionists, but never thought I was one.
Then I realized that of course I have many levels of perfectionism, in whatever ways that means to me.
Here are some of Brene’s thoughts on how to cope and heal from perfectionism:
Self-kindness, common humanity (“I am not alone” type thing) and mindfulness about your habits of trying to be PERFECT.
Of course nothing is perfect and reading some of these thoughts was a great reminder this week.
Earlier this week I listened to this incredibly powerful interview that Terry Gross did with Tim Gunn on Fresh Air. I always liked Tim Gunn when I used to watch Project Runway. He comes across so well poised and sophisticated, yet incredibly human and kind. A few years ago I’d heard that after Gunn’s long-term boyfriend died of AIDS several years ago he’d chosen to live the remainder of his life celibate. This incredibly honest interview discusses that as well as Gunn’s early childhood experiences with bullying, the years he spent in a mental home for children, his relationship with his parents and process of acknowledging his homosexuality. I found the whole thing so touching and I think we could all learn a lot both from Gunn’s story and the way in which he shares it. Hear the interview here.
Last week, we had friends in town.
It was one of those visits that you didn’t know you needed until you experienced it.
Lately, Albert and I have both been feeling a bit down. There have been times when we wondered why we moved so far away or what we are doing with our lives. There were other times when we couldn’t quite put our finger on what exactly had us down.
Either way, we weren’t really helping each other out. There was only so much strength and positivity that one could hold for so long.
Then our friends came.
It wasn’t a crazy kind of visit – the kind where you feel exhausted and like you need to do a juice cleanse after. It was more of a retreat. A little pocket of time when we made good food, shared stories, sang that one song and really connected.
While it was happening, Albert said to me, “It is so good to have really good old friends.” And it couldn’t have been more true.
We both felt so at ease and in turn we felt honest and authentic.
Thanks for the wonderful visit Julie and Dave.